The danger-loving divas who can't resist a bad boy – from Katy Perry's doomed marriage to Claire Sweeney's mystery man
THERE’s nothing more alluring than a bad boy – as these celebs found out the hard way.
We told last week how Claire Sweeney’s new flame John Disley, 53, spent two years banged up for fraud.
The former Brookside actress has allegedly been seeing the scammer for over a year – and have enjoyed romantic jaunts to Paris and Barbados.
But Claire, 49, wouldn’t be the first to fall for a bloke who lives on the wild side.
Relationship psychotherapist Nancy Elliott says they can be difficult to resist.
“Evolutionary scientists believe that the more masculine a man is, the stronger they are," she explains.
"A lot of these bad boys have a certain look or swagger. It’s almost a primal instinct for women to be drawn to them.
“Most women have dated a bad boy at some point in their life.
"It’s a mirror reflecting something that they are working through emotionally or how they see themselves.”
From Katy Perry to Gemma Collins, we explore the danger divas who can’t resist a bad boy – and what it really says about them.
Katy Perry might be loved up with Orlando Bloom, 43, but her past relationship with Russell Brand, 45, was rocky.
The 35-year-old married the funnyman, who has struggled with sex and drug addiction, in 2010 but divorced just 14 months later.
Russell blamed Perry’s pop career for the split. He said in a documentary: “I’m associated with the very thing I detest: vapid, vacuous, plastic, constructed, mindless celebrity.”
Perry later told US Vogue: “He didn’t like the atmosphere of me being the boss on tour.
Nancy feels Katy – who grew up in a strict church going household – may have used her first marriage as a means to rebel.
She says: “Often women who have had a strict upbringing can look to live vicariously through their partner.
“They might want someone dangerous or with a lack of boundaries so they can experience these things second hand.”
Supermodel Kate Moss, 46, famously went off the rails while dating Libertines frontman Pete Doherty, 41, for two years.
The pair met in 2005 and model Kate had an on and off relationship with the drug addict.
"The thing is, she knew from day one when we began our relationship that I was using very heavily. She knew that. So, you can't suddenly turn around and say, 'You've got to stop all that','" Pete told the Independent.
Nancy said: “Someone who works in an industry where beauty and perfection are celebrated might struggle with the pressure this brings.
“Dating someone messy or dangerous might be a sign that they are seeking a balance in their lives or an escape.”
EastEnders actress Gillian Taylforth, 64, broke off her engagement to drug baron Dave Fairbairn, 64, last December.
Fairbairn served seven years in jail after being found guilty in 2003 of plotting to import one of the biggest ecstasy hauls seized in the UK.
This month he was shot in the stomach as he met gangsters who threatened to burn down Taylforth’s home.
Gillian said: “I was distracted and said yes and then I thought about what I'd just agreed to. I'm thinking about wedding plans but I still haven't set a date yet – sometimes I think I should just go for it but then I get a bit panicked.
"I guess my attitude to marriage is sometimes if it ain't broke, don't fix it.”
Nancy says: “Sometimes if men or women have had a hurtful past or lacked love growing up they can struggle to recognise when it’s time to draw a line in the sand.”
When Kat Slater actress Jessie, 48, first joined EastEnders she was in a relationship with Reggie Kray associate Paul Whitworth.
She called off her 2011 wedding to Vince Morse after she caught him sending sexy texts to an ex-girlfriend.
A friend of Jessie’s said at the time: “She called him every name under the sun. When she read it was known she’d agreed to meet him after what he’d done, she flipped.”
Nancy urges Jessie to focus on herself rather than doomed relationships.
She says: “Repeatedly making the same mistakes is a sign that someone has issues with their own self-worth.
“This is a long term issue which means you need to learn to love yourself.”
The ‘Thank U Next’ singer, 27, was famously engaged to Saturday Night Live bad boy Pete Davidson, 26.
The comic openly admits smoking marijuana and in 2017 checked into rehab.
Nancy says: “A lot of us women in youth will go through a phase of wanting to date complicated men as a rite of passage.
“If your developmental path is a healthy one, you are likely to move past this and find a wholesome partner.”
The GC has called it quits with recovering cocaine addict James Argent, 32 – after he called her "a hippo" and sent her pig emojis in a string of abusive texts.
Gemma, 39, also has had a fling with convicted criminal Alexander Moss.
“People who are used to the limelight and have grown up with friends and family cheering them on often might neglect their emotional education," says Nancy.
“This can result in them going for partners who don’t treat them well because they find it hard to tap into their needs.”
The Topshop heiress, 29, shocked everyone by cosying up to ‘hot felon’ Jeremy Meeks, 36.
Meeks shot to fame after his mugshot racked up 75,000 likes after it was posted on Facebook in 2014 by a US police department.
He turned to modelling on his release from a two-year jail sentence for gun possession and resisting arrest after already serving nine years for car theft.
Chloe started dating the ex-con in 2017 and the couple had son Jayden, now two, a year later.
Jeremy said: “I love Chloe for her and if she didn't have a dollar I wouldn't give a s**t because we're so happy."
The pair split last year and Chloe has since been spotted with yacht broker Manuele Thiella in June.
Nancy feels the romance may have been a way of privileged Chloe to break free from the restraints of her wealthy family.
She says: “Many intelligent girls who have powerful parents choose a bad boy in an unconscious attempt to figure out who they are, what they like and break free from what can feel like an empty, inauthentic existence.
“They want to make their own mistakes and choices.”
Geordie Shore star Vicky, 32, has finally found love with boyfriend Ercan Ramadan but her past boyfriends leave something to be desired.
Her romance with Stephen Bear ended in 2015 after the reality star discovered he’d been unfaithful.
She said: “He's literally been the most vile, horrendous, snaky, conniving and manipulative person I have ever met.
"I'm truly shocked that I've allowed myself to get so taken in – but there you go. Love is blind, or in my case, blind, deaf, stupid."
She then split with ex-fiance John Noble in 2018 after he was caught on camera canoodling with a mystery woman in Dubai.
Nancy says strong-willed Vicky was looking for the wrong types of men before settling down.
She explains: “Strong women will naturally want to seek out a strong partner. However a problem arises when they struggle to recognise what a strong man looks like.”
But Vicky’s luck has now changed – hopefully ending her spell of past dating disasters.
She said of Ercan: “He’s so different from anyone I’ve ever met before and I catch myself thinking: ‘Are you real? Are you an actual human being?’ Cos this is not something I’ve had before."
If you need help finding your soulmate, find more tips from Nancy at nancyelliottcoaching.com.
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